A Self Esteem Activity For Kids

A self esteem activity done every day can give a huge boost to the way that kids feel about themselves.

Kids can develop low self esteem for a lot of reasons. Some kids almost seem to be born with it, but in fact they are not – babies do not have low self esteem. What happens in these cases is that they are born into a situation in which they are very likely to develop low self esteem for a number of different reasons, and they do.

In other cases, kids seem fine until something specific happens – maybe they are bullied at school, or there is a divorce, or they gain weight. Then their self esteem drops suddenly.

In the second case, it can help to discuss the particular issue with the child and help them to understand that whatever happened was not their fault. So even though they will still feel bad that it happened, they will not feel bad about themselves.

There are other examples of a self esteem activity that can help to build self esteem in kids in a more general way. Here is something that kids can do each day to set up and reinforce good feelings about themselves.

Take a special blank book and have the child make it his or her own. (We are going to say ‘his’ in the rest of this article for simplicity, but of course this self esteem activity is good for both girls and boys.) He may do that in any way he wants – writing his name, drawing on the cover, or using stickers.

Then at the end of each day, have the child take a page in the book to write three good things that he did that day.

Any of the following count as good things for this self esteem activity:

– successes he had, like scoring well in a test or performing well in a race

– good things that he did for others, helping somebody or being a good friend in some way

– a compliment that somebody gave him

Don’t have him include good things that happened to him accidentally (e.g. “We had pizza for lunch”), but only things that he did from his own choice or things that happened because of his own actions (e.g. “I made pizza for lunch and it tasted great.”

After that, he can write in the book one good thing about himself generally, like “I can run fast” or “I have lots of friends.” This will sometimes repeat, but don’t let it be the exact same thing every day.

You can give prompts: “Did you help your brother with something this morning?” – but only when you know that the answer is yes. Don’t let him say “No” and leave it there because that will have the opposite effect, making him feel bad about himself. If he says no, you can prompt him again: “Didn’t you help him when we were just about to go out?” until eventually he comes up with the answer: “Yes, I helped him put on his shoes!”

If the child is not old enough to write, you can write for him, but try to have him tell you what to write.

At first the child may tell you that the activity is stupid and he doesn’t want to do it. This is usually because he is afraid that he will not find anything good to say about himself.

Gentle encouragement is necessary here: don’t insist on it every day or turn it into a chore. Maybe start by having him write just one good thing. But in time, you should find that he enjoys it and saves up memories of things to write on most days. This is a sign that the self esteem activity is succeeding in making him feel better about himself.

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